There will be TONS of articles and blog posts about how to make Valentines Day with your honey more fun, but what about those people who don’t have a partner, don’t want a partner, or who has a partner who isn’t a sexual person? Here is a list of pleasure products to try for the ultimate self pleasure experience.
For the Full Pleasure Experience
Before any marathon, you need to warm up. If you’re doing it alone, you’ll need to help things along to make the whole experience more magical. That’s where The Butters Lubes come in. My personal favorites are the AloexShea and the Palm Grease. You’ll get so much bang for your buck with these lubes, plus you’ll get off knowing that you’re supporting a small, black-owned business.
Buy the Butters Palm Grease HERE and the Butter AloexShea HERE use the code RAVEN10 for 10% off your order!
For the Inevitable Mess
Body and Bed
During your self love making, you’re bound to make a mess. The bed, or any surface you’re laying/sitting on, will probably take the brunt of that. If you want to avoid doing a ton of laundry, or sitting with hair dryers pointed at the wet spots you’ve created for hours, I’d suggest getting yourself a No More Wet Spot Waterproof Blanket.
Buy the NMWS Blanket HERE use the code RAVEN for 5% off!
When you spend hours playing with toys, you’re going to want to make sure they are really clean before (and after to prevent bacterial growth) putting them in, or around, your body’s most sensitive areas. My ABSOLUTE favorite toy cleaner is the Intimate Earth Foaming Toy Cleaner. Using this toy cleaner, you’ll have the peace of mind knowing that you’re know using harsh chemicals on your most prized possessions.
Internal stimulation is VERY personal, but for me, the No More Wet Spot Double G Pop is the ultimate toy. It’s simple, beautiful, multipurpose, and a great toy for self discovery, as well as self pleasure.
Buy the NMSW Double G Pop HERE and use the code RAVEN for 5% off!
For me, this toy is quite literally the Perfect Match for any person. Before this toy, I had never had an g-spot orgasm. The size, shape, and flexibility of this toy makes it the perfect dual stimulation product for ANY body.
Read my Sweet Vibrations Perfect Match review HERE
Buy the Sweet Vibrations Perfect Match HERE use the code RAVEN for 10% off!
For the Booty Love
If you’re interested in making your booty sparkle this year, I highly suggest the Luxe Bling Plug Set by Blush Novelties. The gradual sizes makes booty play so comfortable and the soft silicone (plus a generous dollop of lube!) makes things feel amazing. The addition of the heart shaped gems at the end of each plug is just a bonus and themed perfectly for this holiday.
Buy the Luxe Bling Plugs HERE use the code RAVENTHEALIEN10 for 10% off!
If you’re looking to up your booty game, the B-vibe Rimming Plug Petite is where it’s at. There’s vibrations, and beads, and patterns, oh my! You’ll definitely have the time of your life playing with this toy, and your peach will thank you!
We’re coming to the end of the year (AND THE DECADE!), so I thought it would be really fun to make a list of all of the products that I have reviewed and fallen in love with this year. I’ll post the links to the blog posts as well as any affiliate links that might be attached to said product. Enjoy!!
I picked the Blush Novelties Noje Quiver for my top spot simply because of how surprised I was by it. In the past, I had always said that pinpoint stimulation doesn’t work for me, but this toy proved that statement wrong. I love this product (and how fast it makes me cum!)
Get the Noje Quiver HERE! Plus you’ll receive $10 off your first order AND free shipping on orders over $55 when you use the code PINKSPACELIME!
The Reece and Rose Mini Massage Wand is a must have for any toy collection. It’s body safe, powerful, and it’s cheap! Reece and Rose makes sure that, no matter who you are, you can always afford to love and pleasure yourself.
Intimate Earth Green Foaming Cleanser is a game changer. This stuff has a multitude of uses. You can use it on your toys and its safe enough to use on your skin in your daily routine. It smells so fresh and leaves your toys squeaky clean, naturally!
Get the Intimate Earth Green Foaming Toy Cleaner HERE!
The Play Mate After Care Towel is wonderful! It is so soft and plush, it will never irritate your skin. The amount that even this little towel can absorb is astonishing. Any little mess will be dry in an instant!
We all want to spice up our sex life once in a while, but sometimes we just don’t have the means to get super fancy. That’s why I’m writing this post. I want you to be able to have as much fun as possible, in and out of the bedroom, with your partner(s). I know there are loads of these types of posts out there, but it never hurts to have more options.
When you’re looking for new items to freshen things up, always be aware of safety. Make sure you’re not putting unsafe items into your body, or using items in a way that could injure you. For this reason, I am just going to list some of the objects that I have used in the past, and some safe ways of using said objects.
Ice cubes are REALLY fun for sensation play. Our bodies are naturally warm, so putting anything on them that immediately cools, will make for a wonderful feeling. On the body, you can run the ice cubes against the skin, or you can hold the ice cubes in your hand above your partner, letting the cold water drip on them. The latter never fails to get a really fun gasp out of me when the first drip hits my skin. For oral it’s pretty simple. Just hold the ice cube in your mouth before going to town on your partner. The ice cube will have cooled your tongue to be just different enough for an amazing feeling on the genitals.
Kitchen utensils work as a great introduction to impact play before investing in the more ‘normal’ or ‘kinkier’ toys. You can use silicone spatulas, wooden spoons, metal icing tool for cakes, etc. The options are pretty limitless. Just keep in mind safety, as I have mentioned before and will continue mentioning until I am blue in the face. Do your research. Figure out the safe zones on the body, especially when diving into any form of impact play.
Scarf, Neck Tie, Sleeping Mask, ETC
This category is very unspecific. You can use multiple items for multiple uses. You can use scarves, neck ties, a sleeping mask, or, hell, even a t shirt if you have one that is large and thin enough. Make a blindfold and play with different sensations, use a scarf or necktie to make some easy hand cuffs, the sky is the limit. There is no reason why you should need to purchase anything for these types of basic play. Plus it can be really sexy and fun.
Clothes pins are…very interesting. This is something that I would only recommend for the people who can handle a little bit of pain, because they’re not gentle. My favorite way of using clothes pins is on my nipples, but ever since I got actual nipple clamps, they haven’t seen much use. Some of the other, kinkier, uses for clothes pins could be full body clamping or labial pinching. Like I said, probably not for the vanilla players, but hey, you never know if something’s your kink until you try it.
I really wanted to add something to this list that wasn’t an object. Spanking doesn’t require anything except a little knowledge and your hand. You might think, why spanking? Well, for one, it’s really fun, and two, it’s a lot more complicated than one might think. There’s the basic spank of hand to ass cheek, but have you thought about changing it up a bit? Play with the way your fingers are spread out, learn the different areas that are safe to spank on and around the bum. There’s so much more to spanking than just the basic way you see in movies or even in porn (because lets be fair, some porn can be fairly vanilla, unless you know where to look).
I am not an expert in anything. These are just my opinions and my experiences. If you have any questions, please do your own research and ask the proper people. I am not responsible for any injury that may or may not occur in using the objects and items mentioned above.
Podcasts are amazing. They can be educational, entertaining, or all of the above. Being a sex blog, I decided to share some of my favorite sex podcasts that you can find on almost all streaming platforms. I chose these based on the information they share, how entertaining they were to listen to, and the type of topics they discuss.
I focused on podcasts that had a broad spectrum of material and didn’t focus on anything too specific. There are so many wonderful kink, BDSM, polyamory, queer, female, etc, focused podcasts out there. Eventually I will be writing blog posts for all of those topics, but for now, I wanted to keep it simple.
The five podcasts I have listed below are in no particular order. That would have been WAY too complicated and I didn’t want you to go into this list with any preconceived notions that I had any favorites. They are all fantastic. If you have any questions or recommendations for podcasts we should add to this list, comment below or email me at email@example.com.
Sluts and Scholars
Nicoletta Heidegger is a licensed MFT and sexologist and Simone is an actor-turned-law-student who really likes to talk about sex. Together, they chat with folks from across sexuality, kink and professional spectrums about desire, pleasure, shame, stigma and (of course) bodily functions.
With a combination of irreverence and expertise, we talk about any subject, even more sensitive ones, like HIV stigma and non-offending minor-attracted persons. What else is on the docket? Anything remotely related to sexual, reproductive and bodily autonomy; from the indigenous menstrual practices of the Hupa Valley tribe, to beauty confidence advice from Dita von Teese, anal sex pro tips from Jessica Drake, non-consensual objectification with Amber Heard and what it’s REALLY like being in a 24/7 BDSM relationship.
Sluts and Scholars is raw, funny, and educational. I have listened to almost every episode of this podcast in the last week. The hosts are so entertaining and passionate about everything they talk about. Their banter is wonderful and it always keeps the episode going. The guests are really professional and educated on the topics being discussed.
The newest episode (111) is SO powerful. They discuss the importance of acceptance of sexuality, sex workers, and sex education across the world, specifically on social media. This is such a hot button topic at the moment and they don’t hold back. You get to learn what their own experiences are with censorship, plus you get to hear from a couple of guests who have a wonderful perspective on this issue.
The Manwhore Podcast is hosted by stand up comedian, Billy Procida. The name speaks for itself, but this podcast is real provocative. The most recent episode features Dante Nero (227), and one of the top episodes of all time involves the host is literally getting a ‘happy ending’ massage during the episode (157). That one is particularly fun.
This is a sex podcast, so of course there’s gonna be some shit you don’t agree with. If you just keep listening, there are so many amazing episodes that deal with contemporary topics such as body positivity, sexual orientation, gender, sex workers, and sexual freedoms. This is a really great podcast to listen to if you want to keep up with the world of sex.
His Patreon has all sorts of fun NSFW content including bonus episodes, conversations, announcements, and some naughty nudes. He also hosts ManwhoreCon once a year and I am actually publishing this post one day after the event ends for 2019. ManwhoreCon is definitely on my list of events to attend in the future. Apparently it’s loads (punny) of fun.
Bawdy Storytelling is a wild fucking ride! This podcast is hosted by Dixie De La Tour, a professional sexual folklorist and storyteller. This podcast has opened my eyes to new things. I’ve laughed and I’ve cried (mostly from laughing). Overall, this is a really unique podcast experience.
The title song ‘My Vagina is 8 Miles Wide’ by Storm Large is such a catchy song. It makes me smile, sing along, and prepares me for the journey that is this episodes story. Each week Dixie introduces the storyteller and then that person tells us a story. The most recent stories involve vaginismus (83) and polyamory (82).
The stories are told in such a way that truly make you see the situation. The amount of detail that is put into these performances is astounding. Sometimes they are told by professionals, and sometimes it’s just a regular ol’ person like you and me. There are so many secrets spilled and fetishes destigmatized. You will definitely connect with these stories, and if not, hey, you learned something new, maybe even about yourself.
This podcast was actually suggested to me by Billy from The Manwhore Podcast, and I am so happy he did! This podcast is fucking hilarious. Sex Talk with My Mom is hosted by KarenLee and her son Cam Poter. He is a stand up comedian and she is a sex educator and self proclaimed ‘cougar’.
I would have never thought that a SEX podcast with a dude and his mom would be so amazing. I love that the episodes aren’t too long either. I think the longest episodes are around 65 minutes, but those still go by really quick because these two are just hilarious.
This is more of a stories and comedy podcast. There’s not too much scientific talk, but it’s really fun to hear about everyone’s experiences with different sexual encounters. Sometimes they have professional/famous guests and sometimes it’s call in guests that are just regular people.
Shameless Sex podcast is hosted by Amy Baldwin, a sex and relationship coach (among other amazing things), and April Lampert, the VP of Hot Octopuss pleasure toys. “Together, Amy and April combined forces to create the Shameless Sex Podcast, inspiring radical self-love, sexual empowerment, and shame-free intimacy. Shameless Sex is unabashed real talk about sexuality with a playful twist. From Pussy Praising to How to Be A Badass in the Bedroom, Amy and April are not afraid to tell it like it is.”(s)
This podcast delves into all types of topics and they deal with a lot more of the technical/scientific side of sexuality. They give you tips and tricks for making your sex life amazing and understanding and accepting your own sexuality. The hosts are funny, entertaining, and could seriously be my best friends.
This is a really great podcast to listen to while your at work. Not too many ‘laugh out loud’ moments, so you won’t get those weird looks as you might with the others on this list. This podcast is quite mellow so it’s really lovely to relax to.