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Spareparts Hardware Joque Harness (Black) XS-5X + Wet For Her Strap-On Dildo Five (Pink)

Wet for Her was kind enough to send me the Joque Harness (size B) by Spareparts Hardware and the Dildo Five by them. This is the first strap-on set that I have ever had and I LOVE them. This combo is perfect for beginners and experts. I couldn’t have asked for a better starter set.

Strap-On Dildo Five

The dildo is pretty amazing for a non gendered insertable toy. It’s made of a velvety smooth, body safe silicone and the firmness of it is on the softer end of firm, so it definitely has some flexibility, but not enough to ruin the moment by having it flop all over the place. The dimensions of the Medium are 5.1 inches by 1.38 inches. Plus it’s got a slight curve upwards, so it’s great for hitting all the spots.

I was a bit put off by the lack of suction cup, but I very quickly learned that it was absolutely unnecessary. The base is extremely wide and firm, so in a solo play session, I was able to thrust it into myself with a quickness without loosing momentum. A lot of suction cup dildos’ bases are usually too flimsy to keep grip, so it’s fairly easy to lose momentum.

I also noticed that, even though the base is rather thick, the vibration transference is wonderful! Putting a wand or simple vibrator at the base allows you to transform this fairly basic dildo into a delightfully rumbly toy.

Joque Harness

The Joque Harness is WONDERFUL! It’s really comfortable and super easy to use. The size B version that I received fits waist sizes 35-65 inches. There is also a size A version that fits 20-50 inches. The fact that all sized bodies can enjoy this harness makes my heart flutter.

The straps that go around your thighs are slightly stretchy and there is a sliding adjustment thing, so no matter how big your thighs are, you’ll be able to fit through these holes. The waist portion is the only place that get slightly tricky. It’s tightened by Velcro so you have to bunch up the section until it’s tight then you have to secure it before repeating on the other side.

Placing a toy inside the o-ring is super easy. All you do is unfold the flaps that rest against the body and shove the toy through the hole. Unfortunately, the o-ring is not all that flexible and it is not interchangeable. It only fits dildos up to 2 inches wide, so if you’re looking to use a monster dong on someone, you’re gonna have to find an alternative.


Overall, the quality and comfort of both of these products is spot on. They’re usable for all body types and allow for hours of fun. You can use the Dildo Five by yourself or with a partner super easily, and you can wear the harness proudly, knowing that you’ll have complete control of the toy you’re using.


You can get the Wet For Her Dildo Five HERE and you can get the Joque Harness HERE!


I was sent the Joque Harness by Spareparts Hardware and the Dildo Five for free by Wet for Her in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

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(Q&A) Can you tell me more about strap-ons?

This is one of the topics that I, unfortunately, know nothing about. Because of that, I reached out to fellow sex bloggers for the information. I was super grateful to @kelvinsparks_ for helping me out on this one!

So, put simply, a strap-on is a combination of a toy used for penetration (usually a dildo), and a harness to keep it attached to one person’s body. Strap-ons have existed for thousands of years- there’s evidence of them existing in Ancient Greece, and even as far back as the Upper Paleolithic. While they’ve historically had a reputation for being a toy exclusively for cisgender lesbians, strap-ons can be used by people of all genders, bodies, and sexual orientations for any number of reasons. 

Anyone can wear a strap-on, and you can use a strap-on to penetrate a partner of any gender with any kind of body. You can use a strap-on for vaginal penetration, anal penetration, oral penetration, or even for manual sex. Plenty of cis straight men enjoy being anally penetrated by a cis female partner wearing a strap-on, transmasculine people of all orientations may enjoy using a strap-on for gender euphoria reasons, cisgender men may enjoy wearing one to offset difficulties with erectile dysfunction or to have double-penetrative sex, and transfeminine people may enjoy wearing one as a way to have penetrative sex without interacting directly with their genitals, or to offset the difficulties with erectile dysfunction that oestrogen hormone replacement therapy can cause.

A strap-on consists of two parts- the harness and the dildo- and while you can get “kits” that include both, it’s useful to discuss each separately. The dildo has a flared based, and the harness typically has an O shaped ring that the dildo can be threaded through.

Harness come in three general styles- three strap/jockstrap, two strap/thong, and underwear style harnesses. The three strap/jockstrap has loops around the waist and each leg, which allows for a lot of customisation of fit, leaves the wearer exposed for additional stimulation, and provides a lot of control. A two strap/thong style harness has one loop around the waist and one between the legs. While it doesn’t leave the wearer exposed some people enjoy the stimulation from the middle strap, and two strap harnesses still provide a reasonable amount of control. Finally, underwear style harnesses are designed to fit like a pair of normal underwear, and available in boxer brief styles or more feminine styles. They are easier to put on, as they’re strap free, but offer less support, so are less suited to larger or heavier dildos.

There are of course other styles of harness, such as boot harnesses, thigh harnesses, hand harnesses, or even harness masks. To make sure a harness fits properly, check both the size of your waist and hips, and the minimum and maximum diameter that the harness’ O-ring can accommodate. Some harnesses do have swappable O-rings, but either way you want the toy to fit in snugly without moving around. 

When getting a dildo for your first strap-on, the best measurement to look at is girth, not length. The partner being penetrated doesn’t have to take the whole length of the dildo, but they will have to take the girth. You’ll lose a bit of the length from just wearing it in a harness, and having some excess length to play with will make positioning and thrusting easier to figure out. Fingers are a good way to figure out sizing- can the partner being penetrated comfortable take one, two, or three fingers? A whole fist? The diameter of however many they can comfortably take is a good indicator of the diameter of the right dildo for you. Make sure that the dildo diameter and base fit into your harness O-ring, and make sure that your dildo is made from a body safe material like silicone. 

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